in the same vein, my mind is still entirely blown by the fact that we are having a girl. again, my entire career as a mom has been for a boy. every single thing i have ever done as a parent has been as a parent to a son. so the whole vagina thing is really taking me for a ride. what if i am jealous of her because jesse love another girl so deeply? what if i try to live vicariously through her and mess her up? also, this has opened up a whole new world of possibilities for if we have future kids. i could end up with more girls than boys! duh, right? well, that seemed close to impossible when all we had was a boy, but now it's all tied up at one apiece. your move, future sperm.
ahhhh, the elastic of the skirt, the wind
okay, i am a little nervous about saying this...but we have a name for the little girl. just like with judah, it was a name i liked first but jesse had never been sold on until he got some serious and crazy confirmation from the lord. and just like with judah, he is now like 5 times more sure of the name than i am (i am a consummate second-guesser). since i felt the wrath of making y'all wait for the gender, let me just go ahead and say that the name revelation timeline is NOT my decision, but his, since he is writing that post and he is notoriously bad at timely blogging (see: the birth story that took a year to complete).
i HATED the experience of telling people judah's name before he was born. i got SO much random backlash. people tended to think, "oh he's still in utero, maybe that means i can talk her out of that name before it's too late." whereas if we waited until he was born and said, "this baby here in my arms is judah," no one would have dared say a word. it just wasn't fun to get a bunch of, "really? that's very unusual. sounds like judy or judas. what about noah? or jonah? those are cool, hippie names that aren't so weird." arrrrrg. just shut up and pretend to love it. p.s. can you imagine the bug being anything other than a judah? no WAY! he is SO judah. so suck it, random critics in target who made me feel like crap for naming my son something other than jackson liam jacob dukes (not that there is anything wrong with normal or popular names!).
now, if i had gotten my real wish for a girl name and gone with lukas (one of her godfather's names AND a boy name i think would be wonderful on a little girl), i would expect a close friend (likely lena) to point out to me that our daughter was named lukas dukes and would likely get called lukas dukas her entire life. so that dream has to die. *note: lena did inform me at 20 weeks with judah that, "you know he's going to be JUdah DUkes, right? that's a lot of oooooh." this is where being lena, a bff and godparent, has privileges. greater public: if you do not have at least 25 blog posts about you, please refrain from negative name feedback. thank you *
so if you're just dying to know the name, take it up with jesse and tell him to get on his bloggy horse.